By Christina Carvalho

Having grown up with incredibly strict parents, my older sister Diana and I were primarily restricted to being forced into each other’s constant company, which led to the formation of an unbreakable bond.

Diana also has Down syndrome. Yet ever since I was a child, she has always been my inspiration. As a six- year-old, I aspired to be like her. I dreamed of being as compassionate, loving and empathetic as she. Having the privilege of constantly observing her cheerful and giving ways has helped me to realize that everyone is capable of good, regardless of their challenges.

Diana, now a 21-year-old woman, thrives upon meeting new people and making others happy. Although she is unable to learn and function as quickly as others typically would, she is incredibly determined to care for others. Naturally, my sister is a ray of sunshine in the life of anyone fortunate enough to meet her.

She can light up a room solely by stepping through the door.

Upon being drawn to a new person, she instinctively shares information about all those she finds significant to her life. Yet, even after such introductions, she refuses to leave their side, developing a deep connection almost instantly. Open and accepting of everyone she encounters, she radiates kindness.

As a result of her positive nature, I have also made it my mission to be the person that others could turn to for a boost of hope and energy when they are feeling low.

Her Story Is My Passion 

After growing up with a sister affected by Down syndrome, I also developed an interest in special education and the improvement of facilities for disabled individuals.

I witnessed the exploitation of the disabled and the abuse of power when disabled individuals are placed in the care of others. My sister once experienced a traumatic and abusive encounter with a school-bus matron as the driver attempted to take a quick nap on that bus.

At other times, people have neglected to assist her. As a result of these situations, I aspire to assist those who otherwise would not be able to defend themselves.

Throughout the years my sister spent at the Catherine Laboure Special Education School in Brooklyn, I was fortunate enough to assist at special events and programs where I was able to bond with the clients. Since the developmentally disabled community holds such a special place in my heart, one of my primary goals in life is to establish an organization that will benefit people living with such challenges.

Choose to Smile

I hope to bring a greater awareness to the struggles that individuals in this community must endure on a daily basis, while also celebrating their contributions to society and their community.

After seeing my sister bring light and love into the hearts of others and put smiles upon their faces, I learned that it is our choice to choose smiles or to choose negativity. Whatever we choose will radiate to all those around us.

My sister influenced me to see the positive in all situations. Through this positivity, I hope to remind others that even if their lives seem unfavorable, happiness and hope still exist.

Carvalho is a senior at St. John’s Prep, Astoria, where she is a member of the National Honor Society, the Campus Life Team and the Junior Ladies of Charity. Her teacher, Ms. Befumo, encouraged her to share this heartfelt reflection.