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Let Them Speak: Lessons Learned While Serving Others

Valentin is pictured here with her dad, Ray, and Debra Befumo, her Dance Director at St. John’s Prep H.S., Astoria. (Photo: Debra Befumo)

By Haley Valentin

I was granted the privilege of distributing Easter baskets to the babies and children residing at the Metro Family Shelter on Queens Blvd, as part of the St. John’s Prep United Dance Teams “Easter Basket Project.”

As co-captain of the Spanish dance team, I helped dance director Ms. Befumo collect empty Easter baskets, books and toys to ensure that children in unfortunate circumstances would not feel forgotten on such a joyous holiday.

Walking into the shelter, I immediately felt uncomfortable as I noticed the extra security personnel present at the front desk. With anticipatory dread, I wondered about the nature of the event for which I had volunteered!

We soon began setting up the various baskets, grouped according to the children’s ages, on tables in the small cafeteria. When I took a step back and realized just how many baskets our generous school community had helped us create, it really warmed my heart. As one family after another came to accept a basket of their choosing, I saw the gratitude in each and every face.

I met families with babies just a few months old, families unable to speak a bit of English and families with multiple children headed by single parents. One young mother brought her eight-month-old daughter, dressed in Easter finery and a big bow, to collect her basket!

“Surprisingly, many of the families seemed no different from my own.”

At that point, I truly understood the damaging nature of the gentrification many believe is “improving” New York City neighborhoods. These families, without a home to call their own, had so little that a simple Easter basket meant the world to them. One 10-year-old boy who shyly entered the room stared, awestruck, at the many baskets, and exclaimed “Wow!” with the biggest smile on his face.

That one word echoed in my heart and has made me want to help the less fortunate now more than ever. My visit to the Metro Family Shelter was a life-changing experience. I’ve come to realize how blessed I am, for not only the roof that I have over my head, but for the family that I have, and the call to faith-filled action that is now in my heart as well.


Haley Valentin is a senior at St. John’s Prep H.S., Astoria. She is the Spanish dance team’s co-captain.

One thought on “Let Them Speak: Lessons Learned While Serving Others

  1. Haley,

    As a SJP graduate, I am filled with pride in reading your honest recount of your experience at Metro Family. Very well done!

    Sadly, gentrification throughout the boroughs has displaced families at record numbers, leaving them no other option than to seek shelter at Metro Family and other temporary housing communities like it. It’s imperative that those families know they are special, and they are loved.

    Please never forget the joy you brought to the children (and their mamas) that Holy Thursday. Most importantly, never lose sight of the joy your service brought to YOU! As an adult, there will be opportunities for you to serve others. Keep your eyes and your heart open and God will lead you to those who will benefit most from your willingness to give of yourself.

    With love,
    Lisa DeMarco, SJP Class of 93′